Shy people can date too!

and the tips to help them do so

It is common to feel tension when you are going on a date. But for shy people, the tension can become outright stressful. The reason people are shy is often because they are afraid to be rejected. The fact is you cannot avoid taking emotional risks when dating. Remember that dating is just like any other difficult situation in your life. If you need extra help or support from others, don’t hesitate to seek them out. Think positively and be gentle with yourself, don’t beat yourself up over every little detail. Here are the things that you can do in order to overcome your shyness.

Plan it out – Just like any other important thing in your life, make yourself a plan of what to do on a date. Take your time and energy to find the Mr. or Miss right. It is not unusual that you will have to meet several people before getting the one that you really click with.

Participate in activities – This will help you to feel more comfortable in meeting and talking to new people.

Positive thinking – Create a positive visualization in your mind. The most that could go wrong is that you will get one more friend. This will help your mind prepared for the date.

The DOs on a date

1. Stand/Sit up straight – Your chin up is a sign of confidence. You should practice this until it starts to feel natural.
2. Make eye contact – Make sure to make plenty of eye contact. Look straight at their eyes but don’t stare at them because you might scare your date.
3. Be curious – Asking open-ended questions makes it easier to keep the talks going. There may be some awkward moments during a conversation. Don’t worry about it. It's common.
4. Be nice – Give your date a sincere compliment. Say something that makes the other proud. Try to avoid making comments about obvious body parts.
5. Stay calm – Don’t panic. The person you are dating is probably nervous too.
6. Keep in touch – If you’re attracted to the person you’re dating, try following up with phone calls or e-mails just to get to know that person better.

The DON’Ts on a date

1. Do not cross your arms – Because it looks defensive and shy.
2. Don’t think negatively – Usually negative thoughts lead to negative actions.
3. Don’t worry too much – Once you’re having things on your mind, you tend to forget about the environment, including your date!
4. Don't ask too many personal questions – such as how much you earn?

Don’t turn down opportunities to meet your potential partner just because you don’t want to be in an uncomfortable situation. The more experience you have with dating, the more comfortable you will get with it. So don’t waste any time sitting around at home.