How to catch a guy?

Someone wrote this morning.... Nikki- I really like this guy, but I don’t know how to get him interested in me? Do you have any tips? Some guidance would be appreciated...

Hmmm, I hear you. I think we all have been thinking about it at least subconsciously when we meet someone interesting. Since, men can be much more quickly than women at deciding who they are attracted to. So, first impressions are more important that you may think and there are things which you can do from the start to increase the chance of that relationship to develop into something more.

First is the importance of a good appearance. Contrary to general belief, men don’t get attracted to just a beautiful face and girl with a good figure. It is a combination of many factors including but not exclusively your dress, hair, face, mood, shape, shoes, height, smell and how you act around him and other people that count. You do not have to be outstanding in all categories but should pay attention them all as, for example you could be a supermodel but having poor personal hygiene will sink you. Women should dress to suit the venue, for example, an office woman should wear clothes which makes her feel confident and smart-which doesn’t necessarily mean a suits. Don’t feel the need to blindly follow the latest fashion trends, rather wear something that looks good on you and something that you feel comfortable in.

Try to imagine yourself at a party. How would you like to be seen? My best method is to try to chat to a group of friends, be conscious of your posture, make sure your back is straight and that our shoulders are open, have a drink in your hand so you look relaxed, wear a pair of sexy high heals (as long as you are able to walk and stand in them), listen to and be involved in the conversation, and never forget to smile. You will be noticed. Now, gaze at the man you are interested in when the moment is right, you may have to do this a few times as men are quite slow at picking up on subtle hints. If he has now noticed you smile at him, this should then give him a chance to drop a nice chat up line by complimenting something good about you. If the men doesn’t drop that chat up line, then it does not harm to introduce yourself first, and ask if he was in the GURU magazine last week because his face looks familiar to break the ice.

Men like women who are well-rounded. You don’t have to be superbly bright, but you must know how to make an intelligent conversation at the right moment. And if you don’t know the topic, pay attention, ask clever questions, be supportive, laugh at his jokes, and he will soon feel very comfortable in your presence. It is amazing how having a genuine interest in someone will open up a conversation. Exchange your point of view, guys will be impressed with how you carried the conversation. When the time is right, you can pretty much talk about anything so he knows you are not judgmental and he does not need to be careful all the time. This is when you show him the smart, sophisticated person that you are and engage him in conversations that interest the both of you. Men need someone who is supportive and believe in their ability, thus they have a tendency to talk about their successes. Give him some praise and use the chance to learn what the important things are in his life.

Play hard to get. Do not immediately reply to all the messages that he sent you or return all of his phone calls, and do not change your evening plan if he asked you out to dinner on the last minute. This is especially true if your plans involve friends, it will make you look popular to have a pre arranged appointment and he will note that he must be more aware of your timetable. Let him work hard to get your attention and do nice things for you. Being wined and dined or receiving flowers can be very pleasant, but the feeling can be even stronger for the person who does the giving. Give him a sweet smile for those roses, to show him they are appreciated. The more he pampers you, the more he will love you. It is ok to reciprocate, but most men find a woman who is too much into him to be a turn-off. So, do it sparingly.

Be subtly sexy. Expressing your sensuality will keep a man intoxicated with you, and help keep a healthy level of interest and passion. This can be as simple as wearing an outfit that accentuates your curves or low-cut jeans to show that flat tummy you’ve worked for at the gym. Find out what draws his attention and go with that, most guys fall neatly into a boobs or legs category, they really are that simple. Subtlety is the key, overdo it and you will end up making him insecure at the next party when all eyes are on your skimpy outfit.

Be patient. Even the most beautiful and smartest people experience dating plateaus – periods when they find no one interesting and no one finds them. The best remedy for this situation is to change your lifestyles, focus on improving one thing about yourself. If all the above fails of course you can drop me an email for more help!